It is an idea that just occured to me, and i am not 100% convinced of it.
As long as i calmly analyse a situation invovling jerks or other obnoxious people, and have all the neccessary information, i usually know pretty well what my options are and can pick the optimal option, and if that is just a lesser evil, that i dislike, i usually have an idea what puts me in such a bad tactical position and propably can develop a strategy, to prevent getting there again.
This usually works on a level of gut feeling and while it is complex to describe, it all is pretty obvious to me.
However emotional involvment can cloud that and if i loose control of my emotions, i make tactical errors in such situations.
If i see someone making tactical errors, i assume that person lost control their emotions and my advice is, to work on emotion control.
Some of the disagreements in that thread could be explained however, if some* women make tactical errors, because they have trouble analysing their tactical options, even when calm. They feel cornered, not because they are so stressed, that they don't see the obvious way out, but they are stressed, becasue they would not see it, even when calm. If they cause unneccessary collateral damage, when setting boundaries, it's not so much because they lost their temper, but because they really don't know how to do that without collateral damage, or because they are unaware of the collateral damage.
* definitly only some, i know counterexamples
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